Lets’ learn how to love again! Are we taught how to love in the right ways? My world may have been different than yours. I never got the opportunity to see the dynamics of having both parents growing up. I never saw what it’s like to love another in that way. For me, I had to kinda write my own story and edit the heck out of it along the way. You first need to learn how to love yourself. If you don’t love yourself then how could you love another?
When love makes its way to our door, our job is to open the door completely. None of this BS stuff of taking a look through the peephole. What are you afraid of? You can’t crack the door with the chain on it either. You have to open it wide for love to come in. Be warm, be caring, be inviting!
We all have our war stories to tell about our past love. We have also been burnt and are scared to get burnt again. If we continue through our lives afraid of getting hurt, then all we will ever do is to keep a wall up. Even if it’s a smaller wall, we still will have something blocking the other and that just can’t work. Be aware of this, please!
We need to let go completely. Be vulnerable and have the belief that the two hearts can be one. Try to be patient. Talk to each other about all the crazy stuff that’s happened. The things you like and the things that are bad. Express to each other the things that have hurt you in the past. These bad things will be considered triggers. The triggers can take your love to a dark place so we need to be delicate with their hearts.
Be thoughtful so that your love can feel your nurturing side. We don’t necessarily need to walk on eggshells but we all need to do a good job of communicating what it is that we want and need from our partners. What do you want out of love? Connect on the deepest level with each other or what’s the point.
Along the way stay away from the divide and conquer mentality. This is just taking you away from your love. Do as many things as you can together. Learn about each other and how each of you handles things. You are their partner and you can help them through anything. I promise.
Love can be scary if we have been hurt in the past, but you can’t be afraid of it. Love is a powerful feeling and it can move heaven and earth to prevail. Let it. Be open and vulnerable to it and know that it’s the only way to truly learn about each other. If you do not let it flow then you will always have reservations. Learn how to love again. Always communicate with your partner.
Be playful about things. Laugh and joke with each other so that the smiles will never fade. Don’t take yourself so seriously. There’s absolutely no reason to be rigid in your relationship. Bring a smile to their face as often as possible. Let them bring smiles to your face too! It is really the best medicine that I can think of for happiness between two people to thrive.
Love isn’t conditional. It’s forgiving. It’s understanding and it should never fail. If two people feel love between each other that’s all you need. That will be your anchor so please always go back to it. Because after all, that’s the very reason why you started it in the first place.
DEDICATED TO MY DOLL FACE
Conclusion
Soak in the goodness of one another. Give in to your heart and let go so that true love can catch it. Stop second-guessing. Stop wondering about the what-ifs. Go get that love of yours, hold on, and never let them go!
