Not everything will be sunshine and rainbows. Things won’t always be ok and that is a big piece of the pie that most people wrestle with. I am a part of it as well and it is absolutely frustrating. The sunshine ends and then comes night. Likewise so does happiness.
Yes, we love to chase the wonderful zest of life, but some days things just go sideways. Sometimes it could be weeks, months, or even years in a slump. Hopefully, you aren’t going through years and years of sadness. If you are take the time to really dig deep to understand why.
Is this within my control
Is it something that you may be able to possibly control yourself? If you can’t control it you have to figure out a way to let it go. But, how? Sometimes the uncontrollable doesn’t go away. Like for real. I have been dealing with something very toxic in my life that I simply can’t eradicate. It is an uncontrollable outside force that keeps hitting in waves.
I am tired. It is exhausting taking the punches from out of nowhere and not knowing how to resolve it. I do my very best day in and day out to decompress. Taking breaks, going on walks, filtering nonsense, filtering out the noise of chaos, but it truly is exhausting trying to smile in spite of it all. It is ok not to be ok.
My body and mind have taken a beating. Am I doing the right thing by still having to be exposed to this force? Most things we have the choice to remove the toxic out of our lives, but sadly I am not seeing a logical and legal way to get through it. It won’t always be this way. In several more years, I believe it will die down. Until then it is up to me how I respond to it.
Choices, choices, choices
I do in fact have that choice. You can’t make someone feel a certain way. It is up to them how they receive the information. Sometimes you have to edit things in your life to suit your current times. If you are in a slump, try to rise up the best way you can. Do the things that make your heart happy in the meantime. Hopefully, you have a good core of people around you that can uplift your spirits. I have my person and she puts things in perspective for me. She knows me.
Having someone with you that gives you hope is a beautiful thing so please don’t ever take that for granted. Your slump can unintentionally spill over onto loved ones. We end up just overflowing all the funk in their direction and that isn’t fair. It happens because they are a part of our core. Recognize the importance of having a clear dialogue with your people regularly about how things are going and how grateful you are for them being in your life.
Take care of your people
You have to do your best to not overwhelm your people. It will exhaust them and wear them down, all due to the fact that they are trying to be there for you. Treasure these people. Remember, one hand washes the other, so always do your very best to be there for those people as well. No one likes things one-sided.
I know that the dark days will turn into light. I do have a flashlight which is great because that means that for the most part, I am still happy. The flashlight is the happiness in whatever this metaphorical thing I got going on here. Ya get it?!
Be the flashlight during your dark times and don’t give up. Take as many opportunities to soak in all the goodness as you can. If everything was fantastic all the time we would never know that things are fantastic. There’s a different feeling when you recognize you are happy. It’s the emotion.
Conclusion
Shit happens. Shit can happen a lot and over time. Deal with what you can deal with the best way you can and let go of the uncontrollable. If the uncontrollable won’t go away then it’s your job to figure something out. Take stock of as many things that make you happy and apply those regularly. It will make the uncontrollable more bearable.
Question
What the heck type of uncontrollables won’t go away?
